My husband passed away

My husband passed away on September 26, 2017 and my life has changed in many ways. 

I have been on my journey towards better health for years now and it never gets easier, I just get better. Small changes over time become habits. I learned my body doesn't react well to gluten, so I cut it out. I learned that certain foods cannot come into my house because they will be consumed too quickly, so I stopped buying them. I learned that even though I can make changes to my eating habits I still need to move my body and build lean mass, so I purchased a year membership to an amazing fitness center. 

Only one of those changes happened after my husband passed away. 

Many people reached out to me after my husband passed away, offering condolences, offering help, and sharing wonderful stories about my late husband. One day a surprising text came through. It said something along the lines of "Rookie Davis wants to contact you and your son, can I give him your number?" I of course said "Yes!" A whirlwind happened and my son was a MLB player's special guest at Reds Fest. A beautiful story was written about the time my son spent with Rookie. https://www.mlb.com/reds/news/reds-rookie-davis-befriends-fan-after-tragedy/c-263702878 Beautiful pictures and tweets that my husband shared were added, including this one from June 2017.

Then, I made a mistake. I scrolled to the bottom of the page and read the comments and found this.

Wow...just wow. The audacity people have to make assumptions about another's life is truly astounding! I will admit that it isn't the most flattering picture, but I had lost 50 pounds in this picture. I was feeling good about myself. I was on the track to health once more. Nothing could bring me down. I was passing up treats, eating all of the veggies I could stand, and making an effort to make myself feel better. The person who wrote this comment doesn't know that I am now working out 2-3 times a week, that I used to weigh almost 75 pounds more than what I did in that picture, that I am making an effort to better myself, and how sad their words made me feel in that moment. They have no right to assume anything about my life. The article was about the kindness that was shown by Rookie Davis to my family and they said nothing about that. 

I started to comment several times but I know that this person doesn't deserve a response. "Don't feed the trolls." There were a few commenters that came to put this person in their place and tell them how inappropriate their comment was. 

You can be working so hard on your life and then it feels a brick wall gets dropped right in front of your face.   

Does what this person said change anything about my current path? Absolutely not. Their comment probably would have had the opposite effect on me had I not already been making changes. I would have ran to a bag of Doritos and a pint of ice cream to drown my sorrows. No, tonight I am working out. Hopefully I can throw something really heavy and pretend it is hitting them in their troll face. #sorrynotsorry